Self-Esteem,
Is Yours Letting You Down?
How can negative
self-esteem spill over
into your life and affect everything you say and do? Read
this one particular account, and ask yourself if it has a
familiar ring.
“They used to say I was born with a fork
in my mouth. I was always told to eat everything on my
plate. Growing up in an Italian family, while our meals
primarily consisted of pasta and bread; I wouldn’t
consider myself to be someone who ate constantly. The
overriding factor contributing to my weight was sweets.
In addition, I inherited my father’s genes; which
unfortunately consisted of a large frame, and a tendency
to gain weight more easily. Conversely, my mother’s side
of the family was thin. To add insult to injury, my
sister was fortunate enough to inherit my mom’s
genes.”
My early childhood years were painful, to
say the least. Attending elementary school posed many
problems. Since uniforms were mandatory, I was unable to
find a store that would accommodate my size. I was
laughed at; made fun of; and as a result, became
extremely shy and introverted. I would always sit in the
last row in class; did not have many friends; and
realized soon enough I was not like everyone else. While
my parents were always telling me how beautiful I was, I
didn’t believe it. Eventually, I withdrew; going through
the motions of living a normal life; but not. As
teenager, it was even more difficult to form friendships.
To compensate, I read books; listened to music and
thought that if I were intelligent enough, I would be
included. It didn’t happen. If I attended a high school
function, I usually went alone, but was never asked to
dance. I became used to being ignored. I developed a low
self-esteem which took over my life for the next thirty
years.”
Low self-esteem can be devastating,
especially for children. If not dealt with, it can spill
over into adulthood as described in the story. It can
invade every part of your life; forming friendships;
engaging in relationships; taking care of family and
home, and decrease the desire to live a full and happy
life.
To improve your self-esteem, it is
necessary to find the underlying cause. Professional help
may be warranted. Speaking to someone who can be totally
objective can have a profound affect on the path you will
eventually take to free yourself from this internal
bondage. It takes courage and determination to face your
own fears and to seek help. You can be assured; however,
once you do there will be no need to ever look
back.
It’s time to get out of your own way, and
find the truth within. Self-esteem issues can be
resolved. All it takes is one step toward the direction
of the light; leave the darkness forever behind
you.
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